My Brother in Law: Jim

Dave: My brother in law, Jim, is always giving me a hard time about the length of my hair, which is long. He calls me things like Tom Petty or hippie… and on extra witty days he’ll say I stay home just to condition it… pretty good material eh? The other day his wife, Mia, was talking to Tessa on the phone. Tessa mentioned that I was going to get my hair cut. Mia, who I might add, has excellent taste, said not to cut it because it looks good long. So later that night Jim phones and is talking more trash to me about the long hair, saying something very clever no doubt, when he mentions how both him and his wife think I should just cut it off. I quietly mention to him that Mia told Tessa she thinks I look good the way it is. Jim doesn’t believe this and has to verify this with Mia, who tells him she does indeed like it. Jim realizes he is on his own and is speechless. Discombobulated and without support he mumbles something before quickly hanging up. I’ve decided to post a picture of Jim with his short hair, and how he wants me to look. Meet my brother-in- law, Jim

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Suite Francaise: Irene Nemirovsky, Book Review

I recently finished reading Suite Francaise by Irene Nemirovsky on the recommendation of a friend who had called the book one of the most ‘humane stories’ she had ever read. I enjoy reading war stories (my favourite book is The Things They Carried and so looked forward to this one which takes place in France in 1941 when the Germans occupied Paris. I was initially surprised at my friend’s enthusiasm for the book because the story takes a candid look at French society from the highest to the lowest classes and ruthlessly pillories each and every one of them. Leaving no stone unturned Nemirovsky clearly has no sympathy for the French or the fate that awaited them during the war. I’m glad I stayed with the story because it’s in the second half of the book as well as in the Appendices that the full emotional import of what the author documents bears fruit.

The fact that the author, a Russian Jew, is in France during the occupation at the time this story was written and later perished in a concentration camp makes this story even more poignant. Suite Francaise was never published until now, sixty five years later when her surviving daughter discovered a suitcase she assumed was her mother’s journals was in fact this novel.

Suite Francaise brilliantly creates an authentic tableau of French society and the impact of the German occupation during this period. What she reveals in its telling isn’t very pretty. With clinical precision she unpeels the layers of civility to reveal what people are truly made of when confronted with horrific and often life and death circumstances. The characters she portrays come from all walks of French life from urban upper middle classes, to farmers, aristocrats and villagers. While some of the characters disappear early in the book the story truly hits its stride when we’re introduced to Lucille a young, beautiful, married French woman who ultimately falls in love with the German soldier billeted in her mother-in-law’s home.

It is against the backdrop of the German occupation of this small village that Lucille and Bruno’s love for each other unfolds. Here we see a parallel relationship between the French and their German occupiers and Lucille and her German officer. During their three month stay the initial shock and shame of having foreigners in their homes and village dissipates as familiarity creates a skein of normality that allows day to day life more or less to continue. When the immediate pressures of war fall away, friendship and in the case of Lucille and Bruno, love blossoms.

Love like war is chaotic and has no rules. It’s only when a French farmer kills a German soldier that the reality of the occupation re-asserts itself and both Lucille and the villagers find themselves once again at odds with their occupiers. In the end, love like water can’t be contained but in dangerous times it poses a real threat. Nemirovsky’s real skill here shows not only how war, class, jealousy and other malignancies keep people from love but also what brings them to love in spite of all these obstacles. Therein lies the humanity in this book.

What I also found interesting was Nemirovsky’s depiction of French class structure and how it invited complicity when the war came. When the Germans occupied the small village the aristocrats, notorious for hoarding and unwilling to sell food to the starving villagers, began to assume a comfort level with the German soldiers. In the end they knew that these foreigners would protect their interests.

This book is brilliant in its detail and evocation of everyday life under the German occupation and shows yet another sorry time in our contemporary history. It’s a great read.

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On Being a Sissy

Tessa: Hello. My name is Tessa and I am a sissy. Sometimes you know something about yourself and you deny it. Sometimes you just don’t know. In this case I really know. One of my favourite sporting activities is chasing Dave around the house, wrestling him to the ground, pinning his arms above his head and yelling, “You will pay. You will pay.”

He looks at me bemused, maybe a little frightened and asks where I got the cheezy line from. Well I got it from the only movie I’ve seen recently and my favourite movie A History of Violence. Those are moments when I feel empowered and not so sissyish. But really, I’m a sissy. I’ll give you some sissy examples: one of the games I play with Reub is called Mother Theresa where I put a towel on his head which makes him look like Mother Theresa, then I scream Mother Theresa repeatedly while grabbing the ball and throwing it some place while blinding him with the holy towel. Dave’s games are called things like Drug Trafficking, or Kill the Squirrel, or Eat the Little Dog, or let’s do Drugs.

Another example is if I see a dog while walking, it doesn’t matter who is beside me I’ll put them between me and the dog. It doesn’t matter if its my mother, sister, child or Dave they go between me and the threat. The good thing is that it happens so fast they don’t even realize they’ve been strategically placed CLOSER to danger.
Wikipedia says sissy is the shortened pejorative term for sister. Why am I surprised? To call a man or boy a sissy is to infer that he is like a sister or sissy. Basically a cowardly pussy. Etymology aside, I stand bravely by my cowardly ways. Don’t come to me if you need saving. I’m likely to freeze while you burn or get run over. I won’t deep sea dive or jump out of airplanes and I have no long term or short term plans on changing. Like Cato, I will continue my surprise wrestling attacks on Dave and continue to scream, ” You’ll pay. You’ll pay.”

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Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close

Tessa: I usually buy books through one of three methods; a book review, a recommendation from a friend who has reasonable book taste or by browsing in the bookstore and reading one or two pages from random books.

I recently picked up Jonathan Saffran Foer’s recently published book Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close on the recommendation of a friend. I read the book quickly and overall quite enjoyed it. The story is set in post 9/11 New York and follows a year in the life of Oskar Schell, a precocious nine year old, who embarks on a journey to find the lock that matches a key that belonged to his father who died in the World Trade Center. The book transitions between the sometimes hilarious journey Oskar takes in the wake of this horrific tragedy and the journey his grandmother and grandfather took over 60 years ago as survivors who lost everything in the firebombing of Dresden. And while the transition between these two stories is sometimes confusing the parallels between Oskar and his grandparents is apt. War takes a heavy toll on those who are left to carry on. The price that is paid is both personal and political. As Oskar, his grandmother and grandfather struggle to come to terms with each other and their loss, a zeitgeist of violence, pain, healing and revenge is created on different levels. Although Oskar’s journey ends in coming to terms with his father’s loss, the looming issue of war is increasingly the cornerstone of all of our realities. In the end the reason I liked this novel as much as I did was because it brought home the reality of loss. War no longer feels so far away. It’s not an artifact of history or of another place. Jonathan Foer lets us know that war is on our turf.

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