So Long Canada West

Tessa: The other day I was at Canada West Veterinary Specialists for Reuben’s check-up. As we got close to the hospital Reuben got really excited as if he were going on a big hike instead of to the doctors. He ran out of the car and into the reception area where he was greeted by a posse of staff who all shouted, “Hey Reuben’s here.” They crowded around him and gave him big kisses while we waited for super babe nurse Jayne to come out.

As we waited for Jayne he sat there with his tail wagging and a big boner, a sure sign of happiness in my mind. There was a couple beside us and we started chatting. They had that worried, crazy look that Dave and I had a few short weeks ago. I asked them what was up and they said Princess was in for her second spinal cord surgery and I nodded knowingly. Of course. I get it. They asked about Reub and I told them about Reuben’s four surgeries. They nodded and shook their heads knowingly. They’re like our children she said.

Then when the beautiful Jayne emerged and got on the ground and started whispering sweet nothings into my sweetie’s ear, (Reub not Dave) he looked almost as happy to see her as he usually is to see me and it made me feel really good inside.

Reub and I were then ushered into one of the waiting rooms to see Dr. Enberg. He always says Trevor and introduces himself in that nice informal way but I can’t quite bring myself to say that quite yet. He’s still Reuben’s doctor and by calling him that I feel like I can hang on to that a little bit longer.

He did the usual things, felt his intestine, finger up the poop shoot and generally played with him on the floor calling him sweet things like here’s my boy. I looked at him and said Dr. Enberg have we turned that corner yet? And he paused and looked at me and without missing a beat or making me feel like I was stupid he consulted the sixty two pages of charts and medically things on paper and said well you know his surgery was then and his last this was then and he hasn’t had a reaction to the human albumin so I think it’s very safe to say yes, he’s turned a corner.

Wow. He’s turned a corner. I wanted to hug him and run out and grab Jayne and all the cute receptionists who act like Reuben is a movie star when he comes in. DID YOU HEAR THAT???? Then I realized that in a weird way I feel completely at home at Canada West. I feel surrounded by like-minded people…people who don’t give a second thought to doing everything they can to help animals.

Since Reuben has come home we’ve been confronted with different reactions. People are usually too polite to ask how much we paid for his life but it’s private health care and they can pretty much figure out half of the cost and even that makes them gasp. One person suggested that there were so many animals that needed homes from shelters perhaps we should have just done that.

I guess at the end of the day we all have to make our choices in these matters because animals don’t have the same rights as people do. Their lives are completely at the mercy of their owners and that makes me feel sick to my stomach.

I told Dr. Enberg I was going to miss them. I’m not going to miss Reuben being sick but I’m going to miss being surrounded by crazy animal loving people who get it.

Now I spend my days plotting and thinking about how I could be useful there. My mother suggested I become a vet. I think not. But it’s the kind of uncompromising commitment that I love so I guess I learned something from this experience.

My next blog will be about my mother’s visit. I can’t write it right now because she won’t let me and as it is I am only writing this one because Dave is keeping her temporarily preoccupied. Soon she will come and hunt me down and demand more attention or want me to paint her toe nails or get her another glass of wine or something. There is definitely something about distance making it possible to love some people more. But more on that next week.

See ya.

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A Long Way Down by Nick Hornby

Tessa: Nick Hornby is one of those writers that has the ability to make me laugh out loud. Hard. Page by page I chuckle. In About a Boy and High Fidelity Hornby has the ability to weave great narrative tales by bringing all of his sharp British wit and literary skills to create classically funny tales of modern life.

So I was looking forward to reading A Long Way Down thinking that nobody could do a treatment of four suicidal people better than Nick Hornby. It has all the makings of a great rollicking tale which combined with Hornby’s razor sharp humour could provide some kind of quirky look into the mind of the suicidal psyche.

Truthfully the first sixty or so pages deliver a good laugh out loud romp and I found myself eagerly waiting to find time to continue the read. But quickly the plot, or lack thereof and the personalities of the four people who contemplate death grow tiresome. In the end there is nothing compelling about any of the characters to make you want to continue the read. Martin, the disgraced breakfast television announcer, is the funniest of all the characters but his incessant shallowness and predictability make his humour quickly grow tiresome. Eighteen year old Jess is a complete jerk, JJ is stupid and Maureen dull. There you have it. There are some small moments that deliver some fine Hornby witticism but they’re few and far between, the plot self-conscious and overwrought, the usual cast of shallow characters offer little or no redeeming features that allowed us to love his other imperfect characters he has created in the past.

I’m a big fan of his and am not going to give up quite yet. I still think he has it in him to write another great quirky tale. Either that or a good re-read of his earlier books would be time well spent.

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It Really Does Take a Village

Tessa and Dave: There’s that saying that it takes a village to raise a child. A parallel saying is that it takes a village to save a dog. In our case it couldn’t be more true. Whenever weird freaky things happen like your dog eats a bunch of wood and comes close to death, you never survive these things without the help of others. So a big thanks to all of you who wished, hoped, prayed, sent emails, phoned, dropped off food, made cards for Reub, and gave us a wide margin just to deal with everything. Every single last thing has been appreciated and who knows maybe it nudged Reub in the living direction rather than the not living direction.

I feel like this is a bit of an Academy Awards acceptance speech. You always wonder why they go on so long with that big long list of boring names. I guess they do that not just to nudge their careers in the right direction but because damn-it, it takes a lot of people and thank yous to make something happen. So not only were family and friends fantastic but none of any of this would matter if we didn’t have all the amazing veterinarians and vet techs who actually did the physical work of saving Reuben’s life.

Super special thanks to Dr. Uschi Craigdailie for immediately recognizing that Reuben had dehissed (intestinal wound had leaked at surgical site) the first time at the Vancouver Animal Emergency Clinic. Special thanks to Dr. Cindy Chow and anesthetist for getting up in the middle of the night and operating on Reuben. Super special thanks for not thinking he was a lost cause when you went in and saw that his intestine had completely fused together.

Thanks to Betsy, Reuben’s blood donor (also Dr. Cindy Chow’s dog). She is adorable. Veterinarian hospitals like regular hospitals rely on blood donors to save animal’s lives. Many hospitals rely on the pets of family and friends for donations but Vancouver Animal Emergency actually has started its own blood donation program  modeled out of one from Texas. If you have a healthy dog go to your vet and ask about it.

Vancouver Animal Emergency recommended that we send Reuben to Canada West Veterinary Specialists and Critical Care Hospital. Without their dedication to excellence in animal care Reuben and many others like him would not stand a chance.

Everyone at Canada West from the receptionists, to animal caregivers to the hospital administrator were nothing short of amazing. Special thanks to Dr. Trevor Ennberg, Dr. S. Karlyn Bland, Dr. Braun, and Dr. Kuzma. All of the people who worked in ICU helped make what was one of the worst experiences into an incredibly memorable one for both Dave, Reuben and I. I’ve never come across a more giving, gentle, smart group of people who spent 24 hours a day watching Reuben, giving him his meds, kisses, hugs and spending time with him in his pen. Big thanks to Jayne and her daughter Annabelle (who drew the cutest get well card for Reub),  Fiona, Amy and Shian and all the others in ICU. Also, thanks to Sharon Brown the hospital administrator for her warm support.

When we brought him back from a visit he sat in the waiting room wagging his tail waiting for one of his girlfriends to come out and give him the love. Now that’s love!

There is one person in particular, however, that we owe the biggest thanks to because without her we would never had the resources to allow all of the above people to do their job to the absolute best of their ability. Within days of Reuben’s illness we were shocked to find a large sum of money in our bank account. Somebody had unknowingly deposited a substantial amount of funds to us knowing that we couldn’t ask but also understanding what it would really take. When we found out who it was all she said was “Do whatever it takes. He’s your boy.” When we knew it would take another $10,000 to go into the fourth operation and we were told the odds were 10% to 25% she looked at us and said “I’d do everything I could.” I don’t know too many other people like her. I don’t know anybody like her. So we owe a very big debt of gratitude and much more to Bettye who has made a few things possible for us. Her generosity and her patience at taking our manic phone calls at all hours of the day & night and explaining all the medical jargon, truly helped see us through.

The music is now playing to get me off the stage. So see you everyone and again, thanks so much.

Tessa Dave and Reuben

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Dog Survives 4 Surgeries for Foreign Body Removal and Lives to Bark About It

Dave &Tessa:Wow, just when most of you were thinking that we didn’t have too many happy things to report we’re happy to say that Reuben can come home today. He’s skinny, he’s got lots of bald patches from surgery and needles, he’s a little greyer (so are we) but he’s coming home. LET’S DANCE! After 20 days at three different hospitals and being told more than several times that our dog would probably not make it (5-20% chance) he’s fooled us all and pulled through. YIPPEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Things I love about Reub

  1. His gorilla head.
  2. His ridiculously long legs.
  3. The whites of his eyes and how they look like diamonds when he looks at me a certain way.
  4. How even though he has slept on the bed for 51/2 years he never just jumps up. He waits and waits and stares and stares until we invite him up. Every single time.
  5. How in the morning he backs into me so I will scratch his big hairy bum.
  6. How he closes his eyes when I massage his shoulders.
  7. How he thinks when I’m drying him off that I’m trying to rub his bum so he backs into me again because he thinks this is a big game.
  8. How he falls onto grass from a complete standing position onto his back and rolls and rolls and rolls around.
  9. How when we’re at our most tired he picks up the ball and heaves it across the room at us to make us play with him.
  10. How he lets me spoon and fawn over him endlessly.
  11. How he tries to sit on my head when I’m stretching.
  12. How he sits on my legs.
  13. How he loved having me pick him up all the time when he was little.
  14. How he never returns the ball ever unless you say SIT six times then he spits it out at you and walks away.
  15. How he only catches the ball if he feels like it .
  16. His big skinny gangly legs in the water when he swims.
  17. How he loves me more than anything else.
  18. How he loves Dave.
  19. How he is an unabashed sissy.
  20. How he doesn’t just love anybody.
  21. How trusting he is.
  22. How he is our best friend in every way.
  23. How he loves snow and runs around like crazy in it.
  24. How he runs in crazy circles, stops suddenly looks at you with his gorilla head and then starts all over again.
  25. His love of jumping into tall grass.
  26. How he adventures but only ever with Dave.
  27. His soul.
  28. His heart.
  29. His unconditional friendship.
  30. How when he’s feeling unsure he gives you his paw.
  31. How he likes to talk and talk and talk.
  32. How he wags his tail in the gurney even as he is being rushed into his fourth surgery.
  33. How everyone in ICU stops by and gives him kisses.
  34. How he never growls or gets mean even with caregivers who are constantly prodding him with needles, IV’s and drugs.
  35. How he gathers our smelly socks and t-shirts and uses them to build his nest.
  36. How he fusses over his nest until it’s just perfect.
  37. How he arranges my t-shirts even in ICU so all the nursing staff talk about how he lies on the shirts or makes a pillow with them.
  38. How he loves to race Dave when they’re swimming making his gangle legs go even faster.
  39. The look of determination when he’s racing Dave.
  40. How he never tires of the game he and Dave play each and every time they leave the house that always results in Reub belting down the hall at full speed looking back wildly to make sure Dave’s coming.
  41. How he wags his tail when he knows we’re going to the car.
  42. How he much prefers to be driven than walked.
  43. Did I mention his heart? I love his big big heart and his old soul.
  44. I was only going to write 10 things I love about Reub but it’s impossible to stop once you get going.

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A story about Reub.

Tessa: When I met our dog Reuben 51/2 years ago he was 10 weeks old. For the first week I had him I felt shock at the awesome responsibility I had undertaken and wondered if I should take him back. Every moment we spent together I realized how much he was in his own invincible way changing me and my life. I was single, working at a more than full time job and never home. Getting a dog didn’t fit my lifestyle at all.

But the moment I laid eyes on him I felt a really strong emotion. I knew that even though he was making my life difficult in a way I had never experienced before that I could never give him up. So for two years we hung out together. I stopped going out as much, and hung out at home with him mostly. Sometimes we’d go running or to the beach but mainly I just loved him. That’s the funny thing about animals. As much as they love you unconditionally I found that he made me feel something I had never felt before either. Unconditional love. I guess it’s like having your heart grow and stretched in ways you had never imagined. That’s just one of the things he has done for me.

When I met Dave, Reuben and I had been alone together for two years. He wasn’t that into Dave when they first met and he’s not the kind of dog to easily fork over affection or devotion. He makes you work for it. And Dave did. In the beginning he always gave me and Reuben our space to work things out. But slowly Dave would take him out to play or goof around with him, teach him tricks, go exploring. After a about a year of this Reuben finally thought he was cool enough to get in on his side of the car. When I was away from home he stopped sitting by the window to wait for me. He’d go hang with Dave. At around the same time I think Dave started to feel the love for Reub. Theirs was definitely a slow grow.

Reub and I couldn’t have found a better person to be a family with. While I coddle and fuss over Reub,Dave rough houses, plays and adventures. Reub has learned how to have fun and really be a dog with Dave. I turned him into a sissy but Dave has helped him become a more playful, normal and  happy dog.

Although our approaches are different, what’s not different is our fierce love and devotion to Reub. I know there are a lot of loved dogs out there but I would put Reub at the very peak of that list of loved dogs.

Last we updated you Reuben was in surgery for having eaten a bunch of wood. Last Thursday we rushed him to emergency where he had his second surgery. Today we brought him to Canada-West Veterinary Group, the best critical care facility in Western Canada. Right now he is in his third surgery. I don’t believe in god, I don’t believe in anything so I’m not sure what I’m hoping to achieve when I’m lying in bed at night navigating my heart and my head between hope and despair. But I’m thinking of him as hard as I can because I’m not ready to say goodbye to our best friend. I don’t think he is ready either.

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Our Reuben

Dave: This is our little hero that is struggling through each and every hour right now. He’s such an awesome dog…. he’s in so much pain but doesn’t complain about anything. After six days without food, he’s just started to eat small bits from my hand .  picture-002.jpg

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What the hell is wrong with Reub?

Tessa: On Wednesday Dave and I brought Reub to the vet to find out what was wrong with our fella. Sad, droopy, drooling, barely able to walk, not having eaten in two days and trying to drown his sorrows in the tall grass outside of our house, we were understandably very concerned. So we go in and the stunningly beautiful vet (Dave keeps mentioning that maybe we should invite her out dancing??) feels Reub’s belly and says she definitely feels an obstruction of some kind. Either that or it’s inflamed which apparently is something the raw food diet, we so feverishly embraced, can sometimes cause. We left him there while they tried to get to the root of the problem while we went off worried that we actually might have almost killed our dog with love.

In the meantime Reub was busy having his stomach pumped with berium so they could track where the obstruction was. Over the next two days they flushed him, x-rayed him, flushed him some more in the vain hope that whatever was in their would make its exit through the old poophole.

Well, no such luck. His vital signs were in distress and they had to operate. A few hours later we heard the news. Apparently Reub has not only been chewing the sticks he likes to play with he’s been eating them as well and there was the equivalent of a log jam inside his belly. Nice. The vet said she has seen a lot of things but she’s never, ever seen so much wood inside of a dog before.

It’s day 6 and Reub has barely eaten. Our vet has asked us not to feed him raw meat as the Canadian Veterinarian Association does not endorse it and she said that she sees alot of dogs with health problems who are on the raw diet. Now Dave is in kitchen cooking up some rice and lamb and sweet potato. He just came into announce that Reub is now eating bits of cooked lamb.

So for those of you who want to spare your pooch a near fatal mishap, I’d suggest keeping wood chewing to a minimum. You will also save yourself three thousand dollars while you’re at it.

Right now I’m just happy that Reub is on the mend again!

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Paul Potts Does It Again:Con Te Partiro

Tessa: A rendition of: Con te Partiro. Prepare to weep!

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Albert Einstein Quote on the Importance of Bees

Tessa: For any of you who have been listening to the latest phenomenon regarding colony collapse disorder of honeybees, here is a great quote directly ripped off from Leonardo DiCaprio’s site by Albert Einstein
   

 “If the bee disappeared off the surface of the globe then man would only have four years of life left. No more bees, no more pollination, no more plants, no more animals, no more man.”

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