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The Memory Keeper’s Daughter: Kim Edwards Book Review

Secrets. Every single one of us has one. Whether we like it or not it occupies a small place inside of us that keeps us alone and separated from the world as though a film exists between you and those closest to you. It’s what makes us unknowable. Kim Edwards in her debut novel The Memory Keeper’s Daughter explores how a secret insidiously weaves its way through the heart of a young family and how a generation later it continues to shape the relationships affected by it.

In 1964 Dr. David Henry and his wife Nora make their way through a snowstorm to the hospital as Nora’s contractions come faster and faster. Unable to make it to the hospital Dr. Henry, an orthopedic surgeon, delivers the children himself. The first child, Paul is a healthy boy, The unexpected second child, Phoebe, is mongoloid. In a split second decision that will irrevocably change the course of his and his family’s life he asks the attending nurse, Caroline Gill, who is in love with him, to take the child to a home. She takes the child to the home and horrified by what she sees she takes the child to another city and raises Phoebe as her own.

The fact that Dr. Henry sends his child to a home would not have been an uncommon decision in 1964 and ultimately he believes he is acting out of love for his wife. What he doesn’t realize is that the lie that is created grows between them until ultimtately their relationship falls apart many years later. From the moment the children are born the lie and everything that is never said between them grows into palpable silence and isolation. And still he cannot bring himself to tell her because as the years pass the nature of his crime weaves itself into the very fabric of his life and his relationships with his son and Nora. Their house is large, affluent and empty.

The parallel story follows Caroline Gill and Phoebe’s life as she struggles to find a her place as a single mother with a challenged child in a brand new city. That we see Phoebe grow up as a delightful young woman who’s mother has fought tooth and nail to allow her the opportunities of any child, makes it even more poignant because what we see here is the fabric of a rich life. One full of challenges absolutely but definitely rich.

This is, of course, not only what Nora Henry has been robbed of but what David Henry and his son are robbed of as well. The Memory’ Keepers Daughter is an auspicious beginning for this debut novelist. Kim Edwards skillfully weaves the insidious nature of this secret throughout her narrative without ever making the reader want to abandon or dislike the characters. Dr. Henry makes a bad choice but her skill as a storyteller allows us to see him as he is; a flawed man but also a good man. Again, this is a great read. It’s a tearjerker that makes you think as well as feel.

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My Sister’s Keeper and The Memory Keeper’s Daughter

Tessa: I recently finished reading My Sister’s Keeper by Jodi Picoult and The Memory Keeper’s Daughter by Kim Edwards. Both of these books are coincidentally New York Times Bestseller’s and both of them are tearjerkers. So if you’re looking to give gifts this Christmas that are guarenteed to reduce friends and family members to tears then be sure to pick up a copy of either of these two and that should do the trick.

I’ll start with My Sister’s Keeper. Although Jodi Picoult has written several novels, I had never actually heard of her but a friend lent it to me urging me to read it so we could discuss it afterwards. Admittedly I had a hard time putting this book down. The story is about two sisters Anna and Kate. At the age of two Kate is diagnosed with leukemia. Through preimplantation genetic diagnosis Anna is conceived as a perfect bone marrow match for her sister and until the age of thirteen unquestioningly allows herself to be subjected to countless transfusions, surgeries and shots. But by thirteen Anna begins to question the trauma of these endless rounds of hospital procedures. When Anna’s parents offer her kidney for transplant to Kate Anna initiates legal action against her parents for medical guardianship over her own body. It’s clear that although a hospital would never compromise a healthy child to save a dying child, Anna’s permission is never asked. Her parents take it for granted that she will subject herself to procedure after procedure for Kate.

At the heart of this narrative is the issue of medical technology and this is a topic that Picoult navigates her way around very well. Having been a parent of a very sick child she is able to draw the reader into the emotionally charged and tortured journey that families of very sick children are forced to make. The choices clearly aren’t easy and when Anna’s mother pushes the envelope in favour of her dying daughter she at times appears monstrously one-sided and blind to Anna’s needs as a human being. In the end Anna was conceived as a donor to save her sister’s life. What her mother neglects to understand is that her daughter is a human being first.

The premise of this story is timely, as the long term implications of stem cell research unfolds in the American political arena. But like all issues, we as a society, are increasingly blindsided by ethical implications of medical technology. This book certainly has its weaknesses, namely the uneven and sometimes ludicrous characterizations of Campbell Anna’s lawyer, and the fact that Anna and Kate’s mother after years of being a stay at home mom returns to court to handle her own case against her daughter. Perhaps this is done to add levity to an emotionally charged topic that stands at the centre of this narrative. Overall, however, this is a riveting book that is sure to generate debate and yes, tears.

Next book review: The Memory Keeper’s Daughter

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My Brother in Law: Jim

Dave: My brother in law, Jim, is always giving me a hard time about the length of my hair, which is long. He calls me things like Tom Petty or hippie… and on extra witty days he’ll say I stay home just to condition it… pretty good material eh? The other day his wife, Mia, was talking to Tessa on the phone. Tessa mentioned that I was going to get my hair cut. Mia, who I might add, has excellent taste, said not to cut it because it looks good long. So later that night Jim phones and is talking more trash to me about the long hair, saying something very clever no doubt, when he mentions how both him and his wife think I should just cut it off. I quietly mention to him that Mia told Tessa she thinks I look good the way it is. Jim doesn’t believe this and has to verify this with Mia, who tells him she does indeed like it. Jim realizes he is on his own and is speechless. Discombobulated and without support he mumbles something before quickly hanging up. I’ve decided to post a picture of Jim with his short hair, and how he wants me to look. Meet my brother-in- law, Jim

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